At some point during our formative years, most of us are taught that expressing anger is a bad thing. The world, we are taught, is not always a just and fair place and therefore we have to accept that we can’t have it all. There is no point expressing out anger and frustration when things don’t go our way, we just have to learn to accept that life is unfair.
Learning that the world is not going to bend to out will is of course a valuable lesson. However, together with learning this lesson, something else happens which is often detrimental for our future health. We learn to fear and suppress the emotion of anger.
Children are quick to suppress the expression of anger, especially if this is discouraged by parents. Children seek connection and attachment with their parents, so any anger expressed against the wishes of their caregiver is experienced as a conflict which triggers anxiety.
However, the healthy expression of anger is an important survival mechanism which empowers and even relaxes your mind. The physiological expression of genuine anger leads to a surge of power, as well as to the disappearance of anxiety. Here we need to make the distinction between the healthy expression of anger and the expression of rage; rage is an expression of anxiety rather than anger and shows very different physiological signs.
In your life as a business owner or solopreneur, anger can have a healing and empowering effect. You may choose to either express it or not, but the crucial part for your success and mental health, is that you acknowledge these feelings, rather than ignoring them.
Anger may point to a real or perceived threat to a business relationship, or to a genuine or imagined violation of your boundaries. Either way, acknowledging it will help you step forward and say to yourself and others ‘I matter’.