The title of this article, are the literal words of the line manager of Shona Hirons, which were spoken to her when she was being reprimanded after having made a mistake at work. Working for a highly competitive law firm, Shona was told that people in her position are not allowed to make mistakes. JustContinue reading “We Are Robots, Not Humans”
In his seminal book The One Thing, Gary Keller states that success is the result of narrowing your concentration on one thing. Success is the result of discipline, and discipline is created by consistently doing what needs to be done. My 70-year old neighbour is in the swimming pool by 5am, swimming 14 rounds everyContinue reading “What is Your One Thing?”
Last week, I had a fascinating chat with Kickboxing Champion Jessica Fleischer. In this fascinating conversation, which can be viewed above, we learn about what it takes in order to develop the mindset of a champion. What can we learn and apply in our day-to-day business as solopreneurs? Some highlights: Know your mission: Jess didn’tContinue reading “Cultivating a Champion’s Mindset”
When you hear coaches and therapists talk among themselves, the term limiting belief will be inevitably dropped at some point. This is ‘therapy talk’ for what I would describe as an unhelpful belief, or a self-sabotaging belief. I can give plenty of examples of such beliefs being expressed from my own practice. Here are someContinue reading “Why Do I Still Have Unhelpful Beliefs?”
In order to make all important changes to our lives, to become experts in our field or to learn something new, we will need to get out of it. And there in the cold, outside that comfort zone, that’s where fear resides.
I have always believed in personal freedom and everyone’s right to be given the space and time to become the best version of themselves. At the age of 15, I was already on a mission to become a psychotherapist. Way before my classmates had figured out what they really wanted to do, I had takenContinue reading “My Story: How I Came to Help People Overcome Adversity and Find Personal Freedom”
I have always had a keen, almost unhealthy interest in psychopaths. I studied forensic psychology and while my past professional interest has mostly been helping victims of crime, I couldn’t help feeling an abundance of morbid fascination for this small, incomprehensible cohort of people who seem to lack remorse, moral compass and compassion. They lackContinue reading “Empathy is Learned, so Learn it!”
Four rules to help you cope with anxiety in these exceptional times of lockdowns, social distancing and social isolation.
I want to make a bet with you. I bet that you have probably never met a person who thinks that they are a bad person. And if you have met someone who says so, you know they probably don’t mean it. Most people think of themselves as good, ethical and part of the ‘correct’Continue reading “No to Advice, Yes to Feedback”
Most of us, the people who have gone on a learning journey in order to be able to provide a service that improves people’s lives, are faced with the prospect of doing pro bono work at some stage in the early stages of our practice. Whether you are an aspiring therapist, counsellor, mentor or coach,Continue reading “My Journey as a Pro Bono Coach for The Coaching Academy”