About Switching Yourself Off

One of the most remarkable things I often hear people say in the midst of their stress and overwhelm, is ‘I wish I could switch myself off’. When you prompt someone in that position to explain this further, they will say something along the lines of ‘I wish I could take a holiday from myselfContinue reading “About Switching Yourself Off”

It’s Personal, Not Business

Recently, I sat on a training course delivered by a business coach. He expressed the interesting (and quite divisive) view that you can only be a proper coach when you work on people’s businesses. He mocked the concept of a ‘life coach’ as someone who isn’t measuring any real goals. They instead waffle on aboutContinue reading “It’s Personal, Not Business”

Do Your Health Goals Match Your Daily Habits?

Do you remember the Channel 4 programme ‘The Secret Eaters’? The show was focusing on the plight of ordinary people who were secretly overeating. Secret camera’s were installed in the participant’s homes, and private investigations were held in order to follow their eating habits. Invariably, the participants would claim that they don’t overeat and thatContinue reading “Do Your Health Goals Match Your Daily Habits?”

Responsibility Versus Blame

For all of us operating in the disciplines of therapy, coaching or mentoring, facilitating change is at the core of what we do. However, every type of change requires an element of responsibility. Responsibility is about having the choice of responding to what is happening to us. As Sartre eloquently put it: freedom is whatContinue reading “Responsibility Versus Blame”

What Mood Are You In This Week?

A few years ago, when I was the owner of a failing business, I recall how I used to wake up in the mornings full of anxiety and stress. I would immediately run to the toilet to empty my bowels as my body was reacting to this anxiety by getting in fight or flight mode.Continue reading “What Mood Are You In This Week?”

Don’t Let Semantics Get in the Way of Action

I used to have a client who hated the word ‘goals’. In every conversation we had, we were going into painstaking efforts to avoid it, using terms such as ‘flow’ and ‘process’ instead, which suggested a more organic and fluid approach to goal setting. Other people I have worked with recently, got stressed by theContinue reading “Don’t Let Semantics Get in the Way of Action”

The Fallacy of Perfection

It’s remarkable to see how many talented people are walking around this world with unhelpful ideas of perfection in their heads. Like some sort of abstract Platonic Idea, perfection is an ideal scenario of things we expect or demand to happen in any given situation. The theory of Ideas, also known as the theory of FormsContinue reading “The Fallacy of Perfection”

The Spooky Truth About Your Anxieties

There are literally thousands of articles about anxiety on the world wide web. In our 21st century Western societies, stress and anxiety are part of our lives, albeit playing a larger part for some than for others. Unless you live in a Blue Zone (and I congratulate you if you do), chances are that youContinue reading “The Spooky Truth About Your Anxieties”

How Do You Find Your Inner Symphony?

Freedom is a big word nowadays; people refer to it in a number of different contexts, including having the freedom to ‘do what they want’, not to comply with government regulations etc. But according to Mira, freedom is about utilizing your whole being, including your intuition, to take decisions and lead your life. Applying esotericContinue reading “How Do You Find Your Inner Symphony?”

Are You Functioning, or Languishing?

Until recently, most coaching models have been focusing on creating high individual and team performance and helping people to increase their motivation to take action. Seldom was much consideration given to the effects of that singular focus on our mental health and wellbeing. The coaching world is now catching up with the reality that focusingContinue reading “Are You Functioning, or Languishing?”