Don’t Let Semantics Get in the Way of Action

I used to have a client who hated the word ‘goals’. In every conversation we had, we were going into painstaking efforts to avoid it, using terms such as ‘flow’ and ‘process’ instead, which suggested a more organic and fluid approach to goal setting. Other people I have worked with recently, got stressed by theContinue reading “Don’t Let Semantics Get in the Way of Action”

Confidence is Built On Knowledge, Not Feelings

As the United Kingdom is once again entering Covid Level 4 Alert, we are confronted with the ever changing nature of the reality we live in. A reality which is shaped by as many external factors beyond our control, as it is from factors we can control and influence. After almost two years of restrictionsContinue reading “Confidence is Built On Knowledge, Not Feelings”

Stop Overthinking to Find Your True Self

Being able to plan ahead using abstract thought, is one of the distinguishing characteristics of the human race. It’s the main reason we have managed to conquer nature, go to space, dramatically improve our life spans and lay the foundations for our science and technology. But as is often the case, our biggest weapon canContinue reading “Stop Overthinking to Find Your True Self”

How to Regain Focus When Things Don’t Go To Plan

As life shifts, so do our goals. This is a natural process, as our daily reality is full of changes and unexpected twists and turns. I don’t recall having ever worked with a client who, by the time we completed our work together, had exactly the same goals they had at the start of ourContinue reading “How to Regain Focus When Things Don’t Go To Plan”

The Fallacy of Perfection

It’s remarkable to see how many talented people are walking around this world with unhelpful ideas of perfection in their heads. Like some sort of abstract Platonic Idea, perfection is an ideal scenario of things we expect or demand to happen in any given situation. The theory of Ideas, also known as the┬átheory of FormsContinue reading “The Fallacy of Perfection”

The Spooky Truth About Your Anxieties

There are literally thousands of articles about anxiety on the world wide web. In our 21st century Western societies, stress and anxiety are part of our lives, albeit playing a larger part for some than for others. Unless you live in a Blue Zone (and I congratulate you if you do), chances are that youContinue reading “The Spooky Truth About Your Anxieties”

About Gratitude

Modern life is quite busy and fast paced. Today we may conceive of a new idea, take an important decision or tell ourselves to adopt a new habit. But tomorrow we may find ourselves forgetting why we decided to do any of this in the first place. It’s good practice to regularly remind ourselves ofContinue reading “About Gratitude”

Are You Functioning, or Languishing?

Until recently, most coaching models have been focusing on creating high individual and team performance and helping people to increase their motivation to take action. Seldom was much consideration given to the effects of that singular focus on our mental health and wellbeing. The coaching world is now catching up with the reality that focusingContinue reading “Are You Functioning, or Languishing?”

We Are Robots, Not Humans

The title of this article, are the literal words of the line manager of Shona Hirons, which were spoken to her when she was being reprimanded after having made a mistake at work. Working for a highly competitive law firm, Shona was told that people in her position are not allowed to make mistakes. JustContinue reading “We Are Robots, Not Humans”

Start Taking Action To Make Your Fear Disappear

We are conditioned to believe that our fear is the result of things we do. This makes intuitively sense, but does the statement hold the whole truth when we look into it in more detail? At first sight, it sounds self-explanatory. Just think of the title of the classic self-help book ‘Feel the Fear andContinue reading “Start Taking Action To Make Your Fear Disappear”